Ways to Deal With Grief
We all will deal with grief at one stage in our lives. When faced with the loss of a loved one, either a close family member or friend, dealing with grief can take over your life. Everyone will have a time of grieving but it is going to be different for every person. Some will move through it relatively quickly. For others, they stay stuck there and grief dominates their life for many years. Some have intense feelings that lead to physical symptoms like sleepless nights and a lack of appetite. Others will find their symptoms not serious such as the occasional attack. The time taken to grieve and the intensity of feelings has nothing to do with how close you were to the deceased person. It has a lot more to do with how healthy and balanced you’re on the physical, emotional and spiritual planes.
Most of the longstanding or intensely felt grief emanates from unresolved grief in the past. It becomes a routine which is repeated. It is as if you are being given chances to heal your grief in the hope that one day you will be able to deal with it. The grief hails from a sense grief, a feeling of emptiness, that the deceased filled your lifestyle. This unfamiliar scenario can cause you to feel sad and lonely.
Grief normally has five stages. The first one is when one switches into denial and shock. Next, these are replaced by anger against the loved one for leaving you or may be against God for making you go through such a trying time. The third stage may be bargaining that will be then followed by deep sadness or depression with all the final stage being acceptance.
Lessons Learned from Years with Wellness
Grief is a process of letting go. It enables you to go deeper to find the root of your issues. Nonetheless, for some, they might not be in a position to let go of the discomfort. They can’t be disloyal to the memory of their dearly departed and they have a fear of letting go. Dealing with grief becomes this never ending block to moving forward. Society as a whole does not provide enough support in terms of the healthy and holistic allowance and acceptance of grief. Family members and friends, while meaning well, become impatient with you and may want you to get over it quickly.
Quick fixes are not quick in any way, and they do not help you to deal with the root problem. This means that this core issue festers and grows although hidden under the veil of the quick fix. When seeking to cope with grief in a way that is curative, it is best to accept it and know you will come through it and it is not a permanent state but just a process.